A note from Rachel
Hi guys,
I’ve been thinking a lot about this blog and while I’ll still be following Jessica’s news, I’ve been realising that most of us who come to this site have a few things in common: a huge chunk of us are young married women in our twenties. (Yes, me too!) I’m 28 and got married just over 5 years ago and I wanted to encourage you all that while you may have rough times, you come out a better person by working through things with your husbands. I’m so happy I got married to my husband and I feel like the last year we’ve been together has been our best yet. Externally, we were able to buy a brand new house, get the cutest kitten and we’re having some awesome opportunities to travel to South America this year (which is a long way away when you live in NZ). But, internally, I love my husband more than I did when we got married and he’s made me become a better person.
Last weekend I was at a wedding of a family friend I’ve known since she was 4 (she’s 22 now) and I was full of hope for her and her new husband.
Not all marriages are like in Hollywood. Not all separations mean it’s over. Not all problems are irreconcilable. In fact, if we never went through hardships, we’d never grow as people.
Not sure if I’m making a tonne of sense here…. but I wish I could give all you girls who’ve been married recently a big hug and support you in any way through any sagas you might be having. While Jess may have been a marriage role model for a while for many of us, there’s still many strong examples of hope in this world 
xox
Posted by Rachel at 1/23/2006 | 
January 23rd, 2006 at 8:13 pm
Thanks for that little note, it helps when people give encouragment!
January 24th, 2006 at 12:43 pm
I personally am no longer a fan of Jessica.. I think everyone saw how much she changed. I was SUCH a devoted fan of Newlyweds.. I adored Jessica. I would joke at home and say she was my best friend, and ask my fiance if she left any messaged for me.. he thought I was psyco, but I just laughed and smiled all the time while watching the series. She started out shameless and real.. as time and episodes went on there was a change.. it was more of Jessica so busy going here…flying there and poor nick was at home trying to find something to do.. she put him on the back burner and I think or wish she would realize where she came from and remember she made vow to god and her husband.. Not her career..
January 24th, 2006 at 3:09 pm
Rachel,
Your letter to all of us is beautiful. I too have the same thing in common as most of the visitors of this site. I am 26 and have been married for 2 and a half years.
I cannot imagine going through anything in life without my husband. When the rest of the world around me seems to crumble, he is my soft place to fall and I try my best to be the same for him. If we have an issue with one another, we find a way to work it out. For example, I am much more social than my husband. Socially, my idea of a good time (other than just being with him)is to go out with a group of people to dinner, coffee, or have friends over, etc. His idea of a good time is hours of fun at home, alone with only me and MAYBE 1-2 people, playing his XBox or a watching DVD. So our compromise is we go out and be social one day of the weekend, and the other day we spend at home. It might not be the perfect solution to someone else, but it works for us. Now my husband gets excited about something we have planned and I get excited over a new video game. There is a world of possibilities when there is a spirit of willingness and compromise. I sometimes get disheartened when I see so many marriages failing, Hollywood or not, when so much could be done to work out the problems. So many people these days have some sort of “you owe me” or “I want what I want and I want it now” perspective. So many people treat or talk to their spouse in ways that are unthinkable to me. I agree that there are still stong examples of what a healthy, happy marriage is. I hope that I can be another example that not all marriages are doomed to fail.
January 27th, 2006 at 5:18 pm
Rachel Your letter was touching and while it does seem.. most of the time men and women are complete opposites. Just realize it always takes 2. 2 people who know how to compromise, 2 people who enjoy spending time together, 2 people who know how to take the good with the bad, 2 people who join together to make 1 couple. That 1 couple needs to stand up and move forward side by side and not let the meaningless Bs that everyone deals with on a dailey bases get in between that couple and eventually seperating them and then back to the beginning of 2 seperate people. Unless its Something serious don’t let all the other Bs seperate something that you love and work so hard to have. because RELATIONSHIPS NEED CONSTANT WORK> women are needy….
January 31st, 2006 at 6:21 am
Hi Rachel, and everyone else! I’m so glad I finally found a Jessica site that is normal and not overtaken by crazed teenie boppers who won’t stand to hear anything critical of Jessica. The maturity of this site really comes through, thanks Rachel!!
I’m also 29 and have been married for two years, and I agree with everything the other commenters have said, including you, Rachel! It seems like no one ever wants to make any kind of sacrifice these days, and if all of their little petty wants aren’t met, they run for the divorce court! How sad would it be if everytime you didn’t get your way you just cut all ties and never worked on things? Very immature of people to act this way.
I know it takes two, but like others on this site, I have clearly seen the change in Jessica which was likely the cause of the break up. I used to watch the Newlyweds show and believed that this was how this girl really was, and that this personality was so true and deeply rooted that she would not change. I feel lied to and deceived because it was obviously all an act, and it’s really a shame because so many great people like those on this board were let down. I guess she did one good thing, though. She brought all of these great people, who believe in true love and marriage lasting lifetimes, together to boards like this one!
Keep up the great work, Rachel! I plan to come back very frequently.
January 31st, 2006 at 9:31 am
Thanks everyone, you encourage me too
February 3rd, 2006 at 12:26 am
Hy Rachel, Isabella and other wifes,
your words are so important in our word. If you look around, you can see some “desperate housewifes” and some young girl, who is married, but didn’t know, why. I’m so happy, because some other people belive in love and marriage, not only me.
I wish you a beatiful day and luckilly! St. Valentine is coming!!!! (Love is in the air…. :)))
Andrea from Hungary